Many times I have expressed my ideas on coming of age. I believe coming of age is when you find yourself, when you finally find the true you. A lot of the time we won't know that we've come of age until we actually reflect on our life and think "hey, this was a big milestone in my life that helped me find myself" (or at least some version of that, everyone's realizations are probably different). I think this is very much what
Housekeeping is representing, a reflection on one's life.
Housekeeping seems to be told from the point of view of future Ruth. As one reflects on their life, they tend to remember important events or moments that effected them in some meaningful way. In this book I think that is exactly what is being depicted. Future Ruth is showing us milestones in her life that shaped her as a person. With each moment, we see Ruth begin to realize who she is or who she wants to be. We watch as important people come and go in her life and change her in some way.
The most important person in this process (at least I think so) is Sylvie. Ruth is someone who tends to follow others, tries to be like them, and Sylvie is a prime example of that. Sylvie leads Ruth through many stages in her life, and she helps Ruth find herself and figure out who she wants to be.
And I think in some ways the situation worked the other way around too. Ruth changed Sylvie's life significantly as well. Someone mentioned in class "this is the first thing Sylvie has tried to keep ahold of" (in reference to Sylvie's relationship with Ruth). Sylvie tries to be a more responsible person in someways (like when she attempts to clean things and such) and I think that is an important thing to think about while reading the book.
This novel is truly a coming of age novel, someone reflecting on their life and showing us their coming of age experience through moments in their life that were influential to them as a person.